Ever notice that people in our lives trigger us emotionally — especially people who are most important to us – family, spouse, kids, employer – people who are important in our lives? And it usually happens when we’re not expecting it?

Do you notice that this emotion and our reaction to it keeps coming up over and over again? That emotional trigger, whether it’s anger, fear or anxiety causes us to stop and take notice of how we’re feeling… and it’s usually not good.

These triggers are mirroring to us what energy we are carrying inside of us that is ready to be released so that we can move it out of our bodies and break that pattern. Isn’t that amazing!

Eckhart Tolle demonstrated that in his book A New Earth: Awakening to Your Life’s Purpose as he describes an encounter between two ducks having an experience of conflict but almost immediately shake off their emotions and go their separate ways.

Nature illustrates the simplicity of letting go of emotions, but we humans have learned to suppress our emotions.

Why? Because they don’t feel good and we avoid things that cause us to feel bad. Ever avoid having to tell someone unpleasant news?

Emotions are energy in motion.

They are meant to flow through us. Because they don’t feel good, we try to control it or not feel it — but those old, tired emotions keep coming up throughout our lives.

So instead of dealing with the emotion at the time we feel triggered, we judge it and hold onto it.  An example would be — we tell ourselves at an early age “my mother doesn’t love me because she gave my brother ice cream and not me.”

It’s the perception that we make in that moment that locks it in the body and causes us to keep feeling it in different forms for 10, 20, 50+ years, if we don’t deal with it.

The interactions we have with people cause us to feel those feelings again (either with the same people or new faces pop up) over and over again until we notice the pattern.

The next time you feel something come up for you, maybe its fear, distrust, anxiety, notice where it is in your body. The body is very intelligent and always lets us know what we’re carrying.

Then actually feel it.

Feel the anger. Feel the anxiety. Feel the sadness. Feel whatever emotion is coming up without judging it, without telling ourselves the story over again.

When an experience happens and we let it go, it doesn’t land in the body. It flows through us (just like the ducks). But when we make a judgment about whatever happened and label it, we close ourselves off from feeling it and it becomes stuck in our cells.

We’re physical and spiritual beings so it becomes part of our energy bodies. And those emotions go out into the universe and always comes back to us — just like a boomerang. That’s the law of attraction at work.

The good news?

These old, stuck emotions can be released layer by layer. We may cry, etc. but it will feel good!

It’ll be a release of tension that has built up over years. The next time you become triggered it will be less and less. Isn’t that great news?

Are you willing to give this gift to yourself?

1) notice when you’re being triggered
2) notice where the sensation is in your body (it can be tension, tightness, pulsing)
3) decide to actually feel it completely for at least 1 ½ minutes or more without beating yourself up or judging it in any way        (you can do this!)
4) let yourself be angry or cry (it’s only 1 ½ minutes out of your life instead of 50 years!)
5) enjoy the release and let it go!!

You’ll feel relief and raise your vibration. You’ll feel good! And when you feel good, you attract positive people, experiences and miracles happen. Give it a try and see what you feel!  Then come back and comment below to let me know how you made out.

If you’re ready to further explore emotional release and how this can impact your life, contact me to schedule a free 30-minute support session. We’ll set the law of attraction into motion!

Do you ever find yourself ruminating about something that has happened or something that you want to happen?

Most people do… a lot. It’s usually not a good feeling and comes about because of a negative thought of which we just can’t seem to let go.

It can cause us to worry, feel overwhelmed or feel sad. Those negative feelings will only bring us more worry, overwhelm or sadness. It’s similar to someone telling you to not think about a purple elephant. You then can’t think about anything else — even if you try.

Changing your focus is key.

When we focus on something (whether we want to or not) we get more of the same. For example, when we focus on not hitting any traffic lights so that we’re not late for an appointment, we will usually hit every traffic light along the way!

We feel like nothing is going our way. Right? Well, it actually is going our way… the way our thoughts are going.

Our thoughts trigger our emotions. In this case, anxiety, frustration, worry. We unconsciously send out signals that is what we want to attract… more anxiety, frustration, worry. It’s like a little prayer we send out to the Universe saying “yes, please, send me more of this since this is what I’m focusing on.”

That’s how powerful we are!

The good news is that we can, literally, change our thoughts and emotions to what we do want. With practice, this becomes quicker and easier over time.

So how do we do it?

One way is to realize that when we catch ourselves feeling anxious, frustrated etc., it doesn’t feel good. And if something doesn’t feel good, we are not in harmony with what we want.

For example, we may want more money and tell ourselves “I easily attract money” but inside, we’re feeling anxious because we may be in debt or just lost our job. What we’re feeling and what we’re saying are out of balance.

We’re sending out mixed signals!

The Universe responds to the strongest signal which would more than likely be the stress and frustration of not having money. Luckily, we can change our signals!

Once we catch ourselves feeling negative about something, we realize we are thinking about what we don’t want. We’ve become good at this over the course of our lives.

Instead, we can:

1. Stop and think about what we do want — which is usually the opposite of what we’re thinking.
2. Get into emotional connection with what we want, by asking ourselves “why do I want this?” This emotional connection is very important.
3. Then ask “how will I feel when I get what I want?” Just let yourself go and float into that feeling. Marinate in it for a minute or longer

The longer, the better since, according to the teachings of Abraham Hicks, it only takes 17 seconds of focusing on something to attract a matching vibration and 68 seconds to start the manifestation of it into our reality. Try it!!

Take control.

Notice when you’re having negative feelings and thoughts and turn them around. They really do go hand in hand. Thoughts lead to emotions which lead to habits. Habits can be broken and new habits can be formed.

It just takes practice!

Start creating new habits… and watch your reality start to shift. When we shift our thoughts, we shift our world. It’s like putting money in a bank… little by little your account will grow and you’ll see the changes you want. Have fun with it!

Once you create that new habit, comment below and let me know how your life changed for the better!

If you’re ready for real change – powerful change – and a happier life, contact me to schedule a free 30-minute support session. You’ll be amazed to discover your power to attract what you want!