Do you keep putting off being happy?
Do you find yourself saying: “I’ll be happy when…”
I’ll be happy when I get the job I want.
I’ll be happy when I lose the weight.
I’ll be happy when I find my perfect partner.
I’ll be happy when I make a $1,000,000.
I’ll be happy when I retire.
The list goes on and on…
But the truth is the world doesn’t work that way.
You see the universe responds to the energy you put out. And if that energy is not what you really want, then what you want doesn’t ever materialize. If it does materialize, it’s not exactly what you really want. Think about it. If you believe that you’ll finally be happy when you make a $1,000,000, well then for most of us, we’ll actually never be truly happy. There will always be a part of us that is not really satisfied with ourselves and with life. When we live this way (and most of us do) we are actually pushing away happiness and all that it brings into our lives. We’re never really fully present and appreciating what we do have right in front of us. It could be our child who just lost her tooth for the first time and is so excited to share her milestone with us, but we’re busy on our phone or laptop reviewing our finances or going over details of a business deal. Time is precious and it moves on with or without our being present in the moment. Our child will never have that same experience quite the same way ever again.
If we’re not really in the moment appreciating what we do have in front of us, then the moment passes and is gone forever. If we keep putting off being happy, then we’ll always be searching for happiness. We’ll always be in the process of losing weight, finding the perfect man/woman to make us complete, or fill in the blank.
I’ve always been one of those persons putting off being happy. But I’ve discovered the secret to getting what you want… it’s being happy and grateful for what I do have now. What we focus on expands is one way of looking at the law of attraction. So it makes perfect sense that if we’re focusing on always becoming happy in the future, well then, we’ll be just that… always pushing off being happy in the future. Only that future day won’t ever come because it’s always out of reach.
the good news is that we have the choice to be happy now no matter what is going on in our world.
I remember when I was contemplating divorcing my husband of 20 years. I loved him but could not live with him and I was exhausted and depleted with trying to make him and everyone happy. One day, the light bulb went off in my head and I realized I need to be happy and the only person who can do that is me! When I decided to be happy, I began to look for things in my life that I was blessed with.. 2 beautiful, loving, healthy children, a home, etc. and I began to feel more and more grateful for my life and myself. I began to feel happier no matter what was going on. I’m mindful of this very powerful principle every single day because it was a powerful decision I made to be happy. When I’m happy from inside me, that radiates out to everyone around me. We all have free will so we can’t make someone happy or feel better but if they feel our elevated energy they have the choice to step up into it too. That’s a gift we can give to each other… even a genuine smile can change someone’s day for the better.
If you’re ready to be happy and see how this can impact your life, contact me to schedule a free 30-minute support session and let’s take that next step together. I’ll walk with you and show you that you have the power to make happier choices in every moment. I can’t wait to see that smile on your face!
Barbara Anselmi is a Spiritual and Transition Coach for Women. She is a Certified Law of Attraction and Energy Mastery Life Coach who has helped hundreds of people around the world learn about the principles of universal laws – giving them the keys to creating what it is they really want.
Her area of expertise is empowering women to transition gracefully in any area of their life to making a fresh start by teaching them tools to navigate their emotions, release fears and pain and re-create a life they love. To learn more about Barbara, please visit www.embraceyourpowerwithin.com.